How can I reccommend adoption to my friend without her being offended?

My friend is having a baby, the father isnt in the picture, and her family is going through rough times. She decided to keep it, but now that I think about it adoption would be the best option for the baby. How can I tell her that? Its very hard because shes my best friend and I do want her to keep it but I know that would be selfish. She chose to bring a child into this world and I do not want to see him or her suffer. What do I do?
I need to add this for clarification. She has no money for this baby. Her mom is sick and cant work. Her family of 6 live in a 2 bedroom apartment. She is going to school and working part time, having to give all her money to help support her family (little brothers). Her family on one side is not supportive, and neither is the father of the baby or his family. And shes only 18. I helped her decide against abortion, but so many people want kids that cant have them. People with money to support themselves. Its a very hard situation. And I dnt appreciate the rude comments. I want whats best for her and the baby
So apparently, everyone here doesnt believe in adoption….what about abortion then? Im confused. My friend is in a pretty severe case where adoption would be neccessary as an option. People are so against abortion and killing a child but the baby will grow up with no dad and without the proper necessities for a child. How is that a better option?
And its not like she’s excited. Shes going to be bringing a baby into this world with not enough love that it needs from two parents. Its not an ideal situation.

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  1. tish_part deux

    "She decided to keep it, but now that I think about it adoption would be the best option for the baby."—

    really? and why do you believe that you are better qualified to decide what a person should do with their child? and how would it be selfish for a mother to keep her child? do you have a magic 8 ball that can predict whether this child will suffer with her; or never suffer with an adoptive family?

    my recommendation: be a FRIEND and support her decision.

    ETA: umm.. read your edits, and…

    i still say you have no case. butt out of her uterus! and offer to babysit.

    "I helped her decide against abortion, but so many people want kids that cant have them. People with money to support themselves."

    a few things:

    1) it is not your friend’s job to breed for infertile people.
    2) you have been WAY too involved in this young woman’s reproductive health.
    3) people get LAID OFF, DIVORCE, FORCLOSE ON HOME; so your argument that other’s are better able is flawed.
    4) people are placing you on blast to inform you of that you know nothing about adoption, and you have NO right to dictate what another does regarding her reproductive autonomy.

    ps. abortion is NOT the alternative to adoption. it’s parenting; and you friend has chosen that.

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    i really think you are a lousy friend.

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